What if I told you that it’s normal for a man to experience doubts and fears about being with you, and that this could be HEALTHY and exactly what you need to experience and deal with BEFORE you spend the rest of your lives together?
Would you be willing to accept that and find a way to understand how you both can learn and grow from that?
As much as it feels awful, I know from experience that all men and women have to deal with their own fears, discomforts, and challenges when they begin to weave their lives closer together.
Especially when they make huge changes in their lives together like an engagement and living together.
Here’s the thing…
Most men and women like to think that in a relationship, it should feel comfortable and safe and “easy” most of the time.
And most men and women have the strong subconscious belief that the people who have good long-term committed relationships were just lucky enough to find that magic person who eliminates all the resistance, obstacles, and challenges other couples experience.
But the opposite is true.
Open, honest, “real” relationships still have lots of challenges, doubts, phases, and fears in them.
In fact, in a way, they have MORE CHALLENGES because both people are truly open and honest about who they are and what they’re feeling.
The difference is how both people in the relationship accept, understand, and deal with these “realities.”
Do you panic, creating more emotional uncertainty and negative disconnected feelings?
“Open, honest, ‘real’ relationships still have lots of challenges, doubts, phases, and fears in them.”
Or are you calm, confident, and assured in a way that lets a man know things aren’t going to be difficult and tiresome with you in the future?
There’s something women do in relationships with men that can kill attraction and lead to a complete breakdown in communication.
When a man starts to have doubts about a relationship, a woman will often try to talk him into why he shouldn’t have these doubts. She’ll tell him all the reasons why they make a great couple and why they should stay together.
This kind of convincing behavior is almost guaranteed to backfire. Why? Because it’s natural for humans to resist when something or someone is trying to push them down a certain path. In fact, men thrive when they have the ability to come to a conclusion without outside pressure.
Starting on page 46 of my eBook Catch Him and Keep Him, I get into detail about men and relationships, including how to think of a relationship from a man’s perspective so you get what you want in his language.
I’ll show you exactly what I mean by convincing and resisting behaviors within a relationship and how to strike the right balance when the inevitable challenges come up.
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