How to Get a Man Back When You've Messed Up
Have you messed up with a man and now you’re freaking out wondering if you can get him back or not? As you start to recognize new things about yourself and the mistakes you’ve been making with a man, it’s very easy to start thinking that things are EVEN WORSE than you thought they were, and for this to freak you out more.
But don’t let this stop you from continuing to learn and grow.
There’s a funny thing that happens to us in life: It’s that any time you develop a new awareness
and you start seeing your behavior in a new light, you first feel like kicking yourself.
But here is what doesn’t help: getting down on yourself, feeling overly frustrated and hopeless,
and dwelling over the lack of CONTROL you have in your situation.
What does help is learning from your mistakes and realizing a few important things about men.
A Man’s Feelings Can Change Very Quickly
If the man you were dating pulled away after you said or did something, you need to remember that this man liked you and was attracted to you for some reason.
And as much as it might seem like his feelings have changed forever towards you, there’s something you should realize: A man’s feelings can change very quickly, whether you want them to or not.
Now… most women don’t handle this reality about men, dating, and relationships very well at all.
In fact, lots of women let this completely freak them out and take over their emotions and how they act and talk with a man.
“The fact that a man’s feelings can change so quickly has TWO SIDES to it – and you can use this to your advantage.”
But here’s the thing…
The fact that a man’s feelings can change so quickly has TWO SIDES to it – and you can use this to your advantage.
See, if a man’s feelings can quickly change from feeling interested and attracted to a woman, to feeling that “ewwwww” feeling where he wants to get away from her, then it’s also true that a man can quickly change from feeling UNATTRACTED and uninterested in a woman to feeling intensely ATTRACTED and wanting to spend time with her again.
In other words, men’s feelings and their reactions and responses to a woman can change quickly in EITHER DIRECTION – from good to bad, or from bad to good.
Making His Emotional Process Work For You
Of course, I’m not just telling you this because it sounds like it makes sense.
I know all this firsthand, and have watched and experienced it during the years I’ve spent observing, studying, and coaching women with men, love, and relationships.
I can honestly say that I’ve helped thousands of women create what I’ll call quick “shifts” in their lives and relationships… and do this with men they thought they had driven away for good.
The point is… you can either let the fact that a man’s feelings can change as a result of your behavior scare you and make you anxious and insecure, (which will only make things worse for you)…
Or, you can see that the fact that a man’s feelings can quickly change can work to your advantage, and you can use this fact to have a man very quickly go from NOT FEELING IT for you to feeling that gut-level attraction for you in a few short moments and interactions.
Getting Communication Back On Track
If you want a man to really listen to you, then starting a conversation with him on a fun, positive note sets the stage for a positive interaction. It sounds like common sense, but I'm sure you can think of a couple of times where this hasn't happened in your relationships.
To get yourself in the right frame of mind, think about what you appreciate in this guy. There has to be something you appreciate about him if you're thinking about having a future with him. Then, let him know it. It's called an “ego stroke,” and it works. When a guy sees that you appreciate him, it puts him in a receptive state and puts everything into a more positive context.
The idea is to create the right mood for the conversation so a guy feels comfortable and wants to open up. Because you know what happens when you start a conversation talking about negative stuff, problems, and issues: he shuts down.
And even if things are tense between the two of you, starting a conversation on a positive note will open the door for re-connection.
In my eBook Catch Him and Keep Him, I’ll tell you how this emotional process works in a man’s mind so you know what to do to “bring him back” and re-ignite his intense attraction for you.
Learn what’s really going on inside him and put a stop to those old habits that have been
working against you. Instead of making all the wrong moves trying to get him back, I’ll show
you how to get things back on track. You’ll also learn how to avoid the big mistake that ruins
any long-term potential with a man (this is on page 61). Download your copy here:
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Learn what really attracts men, and:
- What he really thinks about love & commitment
- The real reason why men pull away
- The one thing you need to know for a man to fall – and stay – in love
- He stopped calling? Learn how get him back before it's too late
- What a man needs to feel to keep him hooked for good