Is He A Grower?
A deep connection can happen over time… as frustrating as that may feel at first.
If you’ve been in a relationship or two that didn’t end well, then there’s something important I’m sure you’ve already learned: that men can be close to you, share love and affection, and then quickly turn away or leave altogether for what seems like no good reason at all.
As much as this seems to be completely bizarre, unexplainable, and ridiculous, it’s not.
Let me shed some light on what’s going on here with men to save you a lot of time, heartache and frustration.
Men don’t suddenly change their minds about whether or not they want to be with a woman - although it sure seems this way to a lot of women whose relationships fall apart.
The truth is, when a woman is caught completely off-guard upon learning that a man’s feelings and desire to be with her have changed, it’s often because she wasn’t AWARE of the way her own thinking and behavior were slowly but surely changing his feelings.
Now, hearing this might tick you off a little.
“Why does a man fall out of love and leave a woman that he loves? Because he CHOOSES TO.”
You might either feel annoyed at me for saying this, or you might really feel annoyed at your past relationship and the man in it for not appreciating you or for abandoning you.
I understand. I get that men can do some pretty crappy things and handle them in even crappier ways with you.
But there’s a truth here for you to understand…
Unless you want to keep repeating the same mistakes in your life - and re-living the same painful situations with men - you’re going to have to forget about what it is that a man might think or do that is beyond your control.
And you’re going to have to start focusing on what it is you CAN CONTROL - your own thinking and behavior (as scary and difficult as that sounds).
One of the things that will help you not just with men but in your life in general is to remember this: “seek to understand and you'll be understood.” In other words, step outside of your own ego and experience, and see what it's like to be the other person in your relationship and how they experience you.
This is an incredibly valuable skill for creating and sharing a loving, lasting relationship. And it takes practice. But think about how amazing it feels when someone really “gets” you. You feel closer to them and safe. The same thing happens to a man. When he feels that it's okay for him to say something and that you won't get dramatic because of it, he'll not only connect with you - he'll be emotionally attracted to you at a deeper level.
Most women think that if they can get some understanding about the words, the actions, and the emotions that take place between them and a man that they can figure out how to make things work. They think that love will just happen.
But the truth is that if you don’t know what’s going on beneath the surface - inside his mind and his heart - then you’re not going to be able to get to the “essence” of what’s really going on inside a man.
There’s a deeper level of understanding you need to have about men.
If you feel that what’s wrong in your relationships is a result of not having a deep and profound understanding of what’s going on with HIM, then you need to read my eBook Catch Him and Keep Him and discover what the gap in understanding is between you and your man.
And if you have even a vague feeling that the problem in your relationships has something to do with YOUR attitude and behavior, my eBook will help you take control of this so you stop falling into the same patterns with men that end up leaving you alone.
Why does a man fall out of love and leave a woman that he loves? Because he CHOOSES TO. Because the experiences he has with a woman tell him on an emotional level that not being with her is what is best for him.
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