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Getting To Know A Man You Met Online A while ago I received this e-mail from a reader asking my advice about a guy she had met online. If you’ve ever tried online dating, or met a man through the internet, Iím sure you can relate to the frustration of the “disconnect” between meeting a man in the “real world” and getting in touch with someone online. There seems to be a lot of confusion and hesitation about what "online dating" is... and how it works. Lots of women seem to think that there's some secret or weird "code" or language going on... and that to "date" online you have to get involved in this whole other world. Guess what - they're partially right. Some of the "rules" of finding and meeting and ATTRACTING a man online are different. And if you don't know how it all works, then you're going to have a bad time with online dating - just as you would with anything else where you don't know what you're doing in the "real world". So... what is the secret to successfully attracting the right kind of man online and not just "dating"... but finding something real? Read on and find out. >>>Email From A Reader Dear Christian- I have bought and read your e-book, and even after trying to apply as many of the principles in it, I find myself struggling so much with it because I haven’t got the guy I am dealing with face to face. I met him online (where a lot of people meet these days) so a large part of the attraction and initial correspondence etc is done via telephone/emails. I try to use your techniques of playing hard to get etc but most of your techniques involve actually having the person in your own town to actively SEE and DATE. What happens when he's in another town, you havenít met him yet, and you want to keep him interested....? There's nothing in your book about these types of relationships. Where can I go for this kind of help? What do you advise here? Regards, NJ Sacramento >>>My Response: First of all, I want to make that distinction here about what “online dating” IS and what it is NOT. Corresponding with a man you met online with e-mails, chat or phone calls is not a great way to start and build a "relationship". Those are just winks, emails, and phone calls... there is no relationship yet. The internet and online dating is NOT a place to try and have a relationship and get to know a man on a deeper level if you haven't connected with him IN PERSON yet. It is just a way to MEET and QUALIFY potentially great guys who share your interests and passions, so you can then see if there is a spark for something more after you meet in person. Do not... I repeat... do not get yourself "involved" through email and the phone. It's a recipe for disaster if you don't already know who a man really is, what he's really like, and what he's REALLY looking for. You can talk and email all you want - but there is NO REPLACEMENT for what you'll find out and learn when you're physically around a man. I can't tell you how many women make this mistake of becoming "emotionally involved" with a man they've met online... only to find out he's not who they thought once they meet him and get to spend a little time with him. Don't do this to yourself. Here's the truth about meeting the right man online... Thousands of women have used the internet to find and connect with the man of their dreams. Seriously. I personally know and have met over 20 couples who are now married who met in the last 2-4 years online. And these are couples of ALL AGES... from people in their mid to late twenties, to others in their 50's and 60's. But here's the other part you need to keep in mind... Countless other woman have used online dating and feel they have FAILED because when they ultimately meet the men they’ve “built up” in their mind through e-mails, chats or phone calls, the men didn’t quite live up to the “image” the women had built and they end up getting a nasty surprise. Remember, using online dating is a GREAT way to meet and QUALIFY men who you normally wouldn’t cross paths with another way. It’s NOT a way to “date” or be in a relationship. You have to treat online dating as a TOOL, not a means to an end. And for more in-depth advice on what men are thinking when it comes to dating and relationships AFTER you meet your potential Mr. Right online, check out my e-book right here:
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